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What Ifs

…or Nature vs Nurture vs the insanity in our own heads.

I’ve no grand revelations. Not even inspirations. But my brain is full of What Ifs. Those lead to more What Ifs and triggered nightmares. Last night I was in high school and missed one class. Okay, I skipped. Then I found out that my father had come to that class, in full uniform. I had missed him.

And that’s what I did. Missed the auld man… for 61 years.

While we -the husband and I- were there, talking to Dad… still surreal… Mike kept remarking how we are so alike, father and daughter. In some very basic ways, we are. I understand and appreciate nature.

Here’s where the nurture comes in… I’m so different than my half siblings… in so many ways. That has more to do with different mothers; it’s also nurture. What if I’d grown up in his house, with my siblings? Instead of socially awkward I might be adept at interacting with others. Like them, I might have had a wonderful career instead of jobs.

My folks lived through the depression and not in a graceful, Waltons sort of way. Needless to say, it had a profound effect on them and I think they were just happy to keep me fed. College was not mentioned. What I would do after high school? Must have been my responsibility, but I had no idea.

Perhaps I would have turned out the same person if he had raised me, but I keep asking myself “What If?”

3 thoughts on “What Ifs”

  1. One thing I know for certain, you can’t change the past. What if IS a dangerous game when played for too long. Just know that YOU are who you are from all your experiences and you are loved because you’re so uniquely you. I wouldn’t have you any other way.

    The question now becomes whether or not you find contentment and joy, love and acceptance in the role you currently fill. I, for one, am profoundly grateful you are who you are!

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    1. Thank you Joanie! I’m grateful you are who you are as well! ❤ The What Ifs have calmed down a bit, thank goodness. Nothing good can come of them. As Popeye said "I yam what I yam and that's all that I yam". 😉

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      1. That’s what it boils down to. You are who you are because that’s all you can be.

        Regardless of what lies behind you, what you do with what’s in front of you that matters.

        Hugs!

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