YsD called to inform us that wee Angus will be delivered by cesarean within the next 2 1/2 weeks. He’s doing very well at 35 weeks and 17″ and is presumably ready to meet the world, but the longer they keep him in utero, the more dangerous for YsD.
They have a car seat, little crib and a few receiving blankets. So, since we’re not going over until after he’s born, I thought I’d ship some basic necessities over now…. caps, onesies, socks, blankets… just stuff to get her started.
But since I told OD about her sister’s lack, the woman is gathering up mounds of stuff to take over. I want to both slap a Sucker! sticker on her forehead… and applaud her supportive gesture.
But it’s not enough. In a few months, wee Angus will need more. More clothes, toys, food, diapers. That will be the tipping point. Will the state of Florida keep both mother and child alive and well? Questions like this invade my dreams. Last night YsD had had her baby; they were living in the monkey house at Metrozoo where tourists threw peanuts at them.
On a somewhat related note: Would the Russian alien that YsD married for a few rubles five years ago have any claim to the baby… should that person ever show up again? Just wondering.
1. March 2010 at 4:21 pm
Wow…must have been the night for weird prophetic dreams. I dreamt that a tornado and water spout were headed for our house and DH took Daisy and our son (we don’t have one by the way) to go see it come in on shore. I stopped them, got them to go back to the house, hunker down and get ready and then it hit the house. But everything went into slow motion and an Angel appeared to me in the center of the water spout to tell me that we could have wealth or we could have fame, but not both. Easy choice, not interested in fame, so wealth will be fine. Then told me that I couldn’t save a loved one who would die in the storm and woke up on the verge of tears.
Yeah, that’s a great way to start the day.
Wonder what it means.
And wanting to help wee Angus out on his start is not being a sucker, but not getting pulled in to being the only support that Angus receives would make you a ‘sucker’. Hopefully things will work out for the best, but be prepared for the worst and love deeply while you can.
1. March 2010 at 4:45 pm
Wow… that sounds like a horror movie…!
I’ll try, Lee Ann. All I can do is try…
1. March 2010 at 6:45 pm
The Russian has no claims on the baby. YsD and her beau are the parents until and/or if they were to sign away custody. If the Russian isn’t the sperm donor, he has no rights.
I know you worry about Angus and YsD and the whole situation. However, worry doesn’t get you anywhere. All you can do is pray and offer a little help here and there. Ultimately, the responsibility lies on YsD and her darling’s shoulders. If, for some reason, they can’t do right by the child, either you and Arthur, OD, or the state will step in and do whatever you can. Until then, place your trust in God, Pam.
2. March 2010 at 9:01 am
That’s good to know, Joanie!
And… you’re right. Also, I think I’ve put the brakes on OD’s poverty trip this weekend… we’ll see….
1. March 2010 at 7:03 pm
I’ll second Joanie’s comments. I believe you’ll do the right thing if it becomes necessary. Hopefully it won’t get to that point.
2. March 2010 at 9:02 am
Thanks, Dave! I pray things don’t get that bad…
1. March 2010 at 9:37 pm
The Russkie has no parental rights unless he can prove fatherhood by mail and it is my understanding that it doesn’t work that way. I think I read that in a book somewhere. Maybe heard it on the Limbaugh show.
As for your dream? Mmm, peanuts! That was just your dreamself hungry. A snack at bedtime will help that.
2. March 2010 at 9:02 am
Well, I do have a dish of Blue Bell every night before bed, but maybe I need to add nuts and some whipped cream to the top…
No wonder I can’t lose weight…
2. March 2010 at 12:21 pm
um – we need to talk about that bedtime snack
2. March 2010 at 12:26 pm
I know…! I’m so addicted to ice cream…
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2. March 2010 at 3:04 pm
Every situation is different. My mother-in-law refused to believe that her daughter could function as a single parent and to this day is helping to support her (now 29 YOA) grandson. Her daughter died in January and she is now hinting that my husband and I should take more of an interest (i.e. financial) in him. I.don’t.think.so.
2. March 2010 at 3:18 pm
Oh, wow. I’m so sorry for your mother-in-law. That’s so not the way we want this to go…
2. March 2010 at 4:56 pm
Tell you what, Pam: let’s trade worries a bit. I know I have a hard time setting aside my concerns about certain things and I know you do, too. As I said, you have to let God handle the situation, but I know how you are (I’m the same way). So perhaps if we were to trade for a day we might actually get a little rest.
2. March 2010 at 5:03 pm
I’m game!